Being fooled sometimes?

The day shone brightly today. Weird it did not rain but the clouds were dark though. Its often the case when we predict a weather. I'm no good at weather prediction either. I guess that is the same with mankind. We often can't predict how someone is just by judging his/her appearance.

Once there was a question asked about how we judge if someone can be trusted or not? I gave them my plain answer - hard to tell. Truly, its hard for me to judge cause I am really bad at predicting people completely. Its usually easier for me to trust people than to tag them on alert in my "trusting them". Have you often found yourself trusting someone too much as well? Well, if yes, welcome to the club! 

But for those who do find it hard to trust just anyone, you did a good job to protect yourself from this "cheating world" I'm not saying most of them we meet today are cheaters, but some are doing it blindly for innocent reasons at most. Its just hard to take the risk of being fooled and you're pretty much protecting yourselves.

As for people like me, we often find it easy to trust anyone who "seems" innocent or genuine. I had my go in such incidents that I was hurt to the core. But I often get over it quickly and give myself credit for being nice to people. If someone is going to hurt me, well someone else shall hurt the person in return even if its not me, that is what I make myself believe. I do not know if its right or wrong to believe such a thing but it keeps me positive to move forward.

So if we are being tangled on some issues that made us fools today, just let go of it and give yourself a credit. Relax and let the days pass by. You shall meet genuine people soon.

Have a nice day! 

Great meet-up, great learning

Today, I met my school colleague for tea. It was something that was great learning experience. 

She is in her late 30s and remain unmarried. She never complained about the fact of her marital status but she was never losing hope on meeting someone someday. That is the kind of hope that I learnt I should have. 

We need to be content of who we are. Not on what we lack in our lives. I learnt to appreciate myself in the eyes of another. Often we put ourselves in dire lackings but in real fact, we are very much blessed by Our Creator.

Whether its now or its tomorrow, or in 10 years time, if we shall be given what is good and correct at its time, we are more blessed than ever. But the most important thing is to never lose hope. To solely trust we can move on in life, with this acceptance deep within us. I truly appreciate this meet up. 


She gave me new meaning to life in another perspective. She trusted that God knows best in His time for our needs. And HE surely knows ONLY to give us the best in His time. What we choose for ourselves may never be the best or good, compared to His doing, right? So that is what she brought to mind today. Sharing this with you all, that you may see some light in it on your path in every tough journey in life.


May we ponder upon the beautiful things in life, and praise God for these blessings. May we stop claiming we lack anything, but rejoice in all we have in life.

LET'S CHILL...

Don't you hate to answer them?

I often get irritated when someone in a function or event asks me about my plans on children. Its not that I am emotional but it agitates me to see people who don't respect sensitivity of childless couples.

We rather not be told how to get pregnant because its not like we never tried. People have to understand from our point of view that pregnancy is tough for us to achieve because we have travelled very far in this journey, struggling with all sorts of issues pertaining conception. We have tried all sorts of treatment, and gave our full strength and dedication towards achieving pregnancy. But if all fails, are we to blame?

I believe these people whom we meet at wedding functions, birthday functions, or simply for other events out there, should start educating themselves on how to think of the rest of the world first. They live in a world which they think is perfect because they had things easily. Its just like owning large amounts of money. To the millionaire, its pretty simple to make huge loads of cash. But to a normal person, we still ponder on how, and we struggle to reach there. Its pure luck, in different sense - biology!

So, people, please understand us childless couples. Stop asking questions that will hurt us. Instead, speak about other stuff that matters most in life - Work, Charity, Righteousness...things that declares or helps your journey to heaven! For that is more important than children and money and all worldly matters, isn't it?

Have a pleasant day!

Hobbies to share

I am was thinking, we should share our hobbies that may be of interests to each other.

Discuss about it. What do you think we could do in our freetime, to keep ourselves occupied?

We need each other

I dreamt of a baby today. But this is always the case with me. Perhaps my longing to fill my life. The child looked so great. Has anyone dreamt of babies? What does it mean?

We need each other in this journey. More childless couples in Malaysia are sometimes left to be on their own. The case is, no one else will ever understand our feeling and scarred emotions, but people who are in the exact situation as us. Who went through painful injections, cycles of failure and the struggle to cope with infertility only to be empty handed again.

That is the main reason we need each other. As friends who truly know how each other feels. Vent out our feelings and let go of stuff.

What are your thoughts on such friends in this journey? I believe we will be a support to each other, and bring in more positive outlook on coping our lives indeed.

Journey from nothing to the unsure

I am just one of the many women and men in this journey of infertility.

I thought many a times that someone should start a blog, a place where we can just share our concerns, worries or just to talk about what each day brings us.

Perhaps this is the reason I wanted to bring a blog for us men and women who have accepted such a childlessness in our lives.

We may have other options for adoption, of an awaiting adoption process, or just a state of full acceptance of a life without children. Whatever it is, its a great life to explore.

I thought of something while thinking much about children itself. Perhaps God has a great reason to set us aside for a honorable assignment in raising adopted children as our own. Or for those who seek to live your lives without children by your choice, its also a blessing for the two of you on this decision.

Who says without children there is no happiness? God himself did not pro-create children for Himself. He created us and all His creation. And it was never His need to have His own seed. He is ever loving and ever merciful to us, His creation. Thus, I am very grateful for God's decision to bring us to this contentment in life.

We are never alone. Many millions walk this journey and we have a great Creator who cares. Surrender all to Him and just share this sorrow and joy together.

God Bless you all!